You are as Old as YOU want to be....

There are times when people underestimate your age and ask you, "Are you in middle school?", "Are you in High school?", "Which year at uni?", and when you are with your parents, "Are you sisters?" or "Are you brothers?"

Or at times exxagerate and ask you, "How long have you been working?", "How many kids and grand kids do you have?", etc.

At times it could be a pleasure to answer these questions, "Look you are mistaken, I'm just so and so." But then at times you'd find it hard to brush off these questions, especially if they are repeated. 

Having interacted with people living with various life styles, culture, religion and also at different ages, I have come to this conclusion: "You are as old as YOU want to be!!!"

Yes, your life-style and attitude to life makes your mental age quite different than your physical age. You live young and healthy with a positive outlook on life by always being active and keeping your brain working. Haven't you seen news about so many old people in the newspapers who are 90+, but still live healthy? Its all in your mind. If you have things that bother you and you really eat your head with those thoughts, then you'll find yourself growing older faster than you are supposed to.

So, let things just happen. Enjoy each moment of your life. Make life a learning experience, be like a child, always curious and eager to learn new things. Try some sports to live healthy and remain young mentally as that reflects on your face.

I had this professor for Math who has been teaching for 30+ years and still plays tennis and almost all my professors at university used to play soccer against students and the next day they come to class and tell the students, "You made me run so much y'day. I'll get back to you next time!!!"

I also noticed that when you try to interact with people of different ages, try doing things they'd like to do, so that you can find pleasure and get to know how it feels like to be at such an age. When with kids, play. When with old people, listen. Learn compassion and kindness and learn to let things go, but leave the memories to linger......

You decide your age, you are as old as you want to be......

Poem by Rumi

I just loved this poem:

"In generosity and helping others, be like a river
In compassion and grace, be like the sun
In concealing other's faults, be like the night
In anger and fury, be like dead
In modesty and humility, be like the earth
In tolerance, be like the sea
Either appear as you are, or be as you appear."

- Rumi

So Blessed

Being an optimist to the core, it was so unlike me to post a blog like "Leave me Alone". But for some reason (or a particular reason, maybe, *wink*) I was all hyped up and crazy yesterday, I just had to relieve my stress. And lo and behold, come Monday afternoon, I'm back to being the so called "normal".

I just feel so blessed everyday.

I'm blessed to have reached this far in my life...

Blessed to have been able to accomplish my dreams....

Blessed to live my dreams.....

Blessed to love the way I live 

And live the way I love....

I take things for granted..

Every trial and tribulation in life is a test....

It comes and goes....

Every happy moment is a test....

Life keeps fluctuating.....

Are you prepared to face everything that life will throw on you?

Maybe not. But just remember,

Being able to do simple things in itself is a blessing.

Being able to walk and talk,

Read and write, eat and drink,

Touch and feel, see and think....

One of the most inspiring TV show that I watched is "One liter of Tears" in Japanese...truly a heart warming series. Just watch it and feel all the blessings bestowed on you.

At the end of it everyone will die. So why make the world a living hell? Let's make it a better place, so that human beings can co-exist.

I just love this part of a Hindi song, it always inspires me....

"Ek pal ka jeena, phir to hai jaana

Toufa kya leke jaaye, dil ye bataana,

Khali haath aaye te hum, khaali haath jaayenge,

Bas pyaar ke do meete bol chil milaayenge,

To has, kyunki duniya ko hai hasaana"

Which rougly translates to:

"A few moments of life, then we have to leave,

What are the gifts that we can take, tell me, my heart

We came empty handed, we will go empty handed,

Only a few sweet words of love we will share

So smile, because you have to make the world SMILE"

Keep smiling :) and  have a great day!!!!

Leave Me Alone!!!

Ever wondered how someone feels when they ask you to leave them alone???

I truly believe....no one wants to be left to themself, especially when things are bothering them. They just want some time on their own. To sort their feelings, their rage, their thoughts and even more their words.....they don't want to hurt those who are close to them.......

Yesterday, I tried being a silent spectator. Sat like a lonely bird. I don't know what got into me....but I was so not my usual boring self....I was worse than boring!!! It reminded me of fevicol advertisement.....I felt like I was glued to the seat. I wanted to be left by myself....Why? I have no idea....

Are there things bothering me? May be.....

Am I scared I'll hurt someone? I guess so.....

Do I fear missing my friends? Yes...I DO for sure.......

Walking down my life...I've understood that even though you can be greatest buddies at some point.....but with distance your closest buddy can become a complete stranger to you....I guess I fear that the most at this point of my life.......When I realized that the friendship that just happened cannot be kindled again....it just breaks my heart.....

Yesterday....I was almost in tears.....I reallly miss those days....and I really miss not being able to spend time together like usual, because we are busy with our own lives....

Did I shout a "Leave me alone" yesterday? No I didn't....but I was thinking what would happen if I just faded away like that.....If I don't take the initiative to talk to anyone.....to write to anyone.....to call anyone...to smile at anyone......I guess I would fade away and be forgotten...and I fear that even more!!!!

What is it that stops me from taking initiative? Is it shyness? Is it attitude? Is it arrogance? Is it time?? Believe me, no one has time for anyone these days.....not even for themselves!!! 

Even then I have a ray of hope...I know that no matter when I call you you will try to be there for me....even if you can't, you'll try your best not to make me feel lonely...even when we are strangers....'coz at one point of our life we were inseparable......but now the distance grows.....

My Friend

You don't know what I think,

But you know how I feel......

You are not always near me,

But you are always close to me, in my heart....

You are not aware of my success or failure,

But always there to encourage and cheer me.....

You don't know what I feel for you,

And I'm not sure about it either......

But I know that you will remain....

Today, tomorrow and forever......

Someone I'll cherish.....

Your memories I'll keep....

For the sadness to perish....

You are my courage forever....

......My good friend.........

A Quote

"Sometimes people put up walls, not to keep others out, but to see who cares enough to break them down"